The mix of love and attraction.

Quite often in the twenty-first century we can observe and view that the words “I love you” is thrown around all the time. We hear it everywhere, in our houses between the beautiful gift of marriage, on TV (or Movie) where the main protagonist sways the beautiful jewel with cunning and sweet talk, and now more often than ever before in our schools where teenage love seems to be in abundance. Which of these can we consider to be real love?

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Sam, a quiet guy was having just an average lunch in the company of his many friends. Everything seemed as ordinary as it usually would seem. His friends were chatting away, his sandwich in his right hand, juice box in the left, Ben standing next to him talking about his wild dreams and aspirations with no one seeming to care, Joe to his right picking out the girls passing bye and Jeremy showing off his new iPod. So Sam just eating away at his ham filled sandwich takes a quick look around the building and something catches his eye. An angelic smile was the only words that he could think of. The utter perfection of her body showing the true beauty of Gods handiwork on earth.

Weeks would go by and over the endless periods of school they got together only to soon realise that the oh my goodness don’t say it word “love” wasn’t there. And this is the thing that stumps many young teenagers in our common age. They mix the two words love and attraction. When it comes down to any relationship there is always the initial attraction. Something about him or her makes them different to the other four billion people on the earth. But this is where nine out of ten times people get it wrong. Does the phrase “I like you, lets go out” sound familiar to you? Well you see the first mistake here is, you don’t even know the person. In fact that is your only mistake. Another common phrase or something along the lines of this would be “why did it turn out this way I thought he was ‘the one’”. And that’s simply because you don’t know him (or her).

To be attracted to someone does not necessarily mean you have to marry him (or her).It just simply means that you find a certain aspect or quality that just draws you towards them in a different way than you would be to other people. If you are able to understand and grasp this meaning of attraction, I believe that it could take friendship to a whole dimension, even better than most boyfriend/girlfriend relationships in some cases.

Now back to my original question to which of the three can we consider “real love”. As we can see throughout the tone of this blog clearly, not the high school relationships. And it is obviously not the not the actor because it’s just a TV show. Which leaves one answer and that would be the married couple. It is because they’ve over time (most of the time), built up a relationship from the first attraction and didn’t rush the true beauty of friendship. Simply its just because they know each other.

“I like you more than I love you”

Peter.

Ps: This doesn’t apply to everyone, some are lucky enough to instantly fall in love with someone, and I am jealous. But in most cases you need to work on friendship before you get relationship.