Orientated Family

This is an older blog that I wrote a while back and I wanted to bring it from myspace to hear because this is utterly important to myself. It is also a bit long so be warned. enjoy.

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Blog about the important things in life

Family. The thing I dread the most but also need the most. Yes both are contradicting statements, but time and time again I fail to realise the importance of family. In this Blog I don’t want to be telling anyone what’s right or wrong, but rather just my side to this issue. The greatest issue of people disrespecting our parents. And I know I need to work on these things to because we are all culprits of this, sometimes with out realising it.

We all get into fights with our parents. They can be over anything from going out to much, spending too much time on the computer, boyfriend or girlfriend and even simple things like not doing our chores. Our main argument is "Mum/Dad you never understand me" or "you don’t know what its like" or even "I am old enough to make my own decisions". And as much as it seems that all they want to do is bring you down it is really the opposite. Because in actual fact the only reason they would ever some would say interfere with your life is because simply because they care and love you. Sure they might not understand your exact situation and sure they might over react a little, it doesn’t change the fact that they'd do anything to protect their kid. It's a parents duty to worry, because in the end all the ever do is care.

I remember when I was a kid I use to be the worst. I would always get into trouble and my parents would have my kneel down in the corner or hit me with a something. And I know for a fact in my mind I would be like "I hate you mum/dad". Why? Simple because they hit me. I didn’t understand in the heat of the moment why my parents hit me, which is because when we are young we are simple minded and fail to look at the bigger picture. Our parents don't enjoy punishing their kids. In fact they would rather avoid it. I mean who would seriously want to hit their own kids. There has to be more to it and there is. That’s because they are disciplining you so that in the future you would be a better person. The reason I brought this up is because for teenagers we don’t understand why parents don’t let us go out or do things that might be harmful to us. Likewise as a child we are simple minded and don’t see the bigger picture that it only benefits us. A parent punishing their kid brings them no benefit. They gain nothing except the heartache of hurting their child. As much as we believe they don’t understand it is in fact us that don’t understand. But like I now understand why my parents hit me with a chopstick, we will understand why our parents didn’t let us go to that party.

Don’t you hate it when your parents are right? We always go to them nah that wont happen to me. So they let us go on our merry way and we soon discover that oh crap they were right and then we have to up to them and apologise. Even if we already know they are right we continue to make our stance against them to some how manipulate words to make you sound right. Let me give you an example. Growing up I have always been eating junk food. My parents would be like hey don’t eat so much you'll get fat, but I was like Nah I'm fine don’t worry sif I’ll get fat. And look at me now. Oh crap if only I listened to my parents. I don’t understand it either but some how our parents always seem to be right. I guess we just have to learn to trust them because as much as they aren’t you, you aren’t them either (well you kind of are) and that’s exactly my point. You keep telling them they don't understand when you have no knowledge of what they apparently don’t know if you know what I mean. They just simply want to pass their experiences on to you so that maybe you wouldn't make the same mistake. It might be a different situation but it’s the same concept. Different, Differentbut the same.

The last thing I really dislike is how teenagers talk to their parents as if they are trash. I mean it might not necessarily be like fully swearing or abusing their parents, but more like just pushing them away in harsh tone of voice. As much as we might have a crap day or you might have bad relations with your parents, they still deserve to be respected. Besides they did bring you up as a child till where you are today. Parents are awesome. Some aren’t as lucky to have parents, and I guess it’s another reason to respect your parents because I would hate to regret not spending time with them when they are gone, because truth is they don’t last forever. It might seem like it’s always the same but one day they will be gone and the worst feeling is regretting after it’s too late. So yeh treat them with respect not only because they deserve it, but because you want to give it. After all they gave you everything you have.


Peter